We often think of physical abuse as the only form of domestic violence, often overlooking emotional and mental abuse and sometimes dismissing the experiences of victims/survivors based on their gender. According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, 1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men have been victims of [some form of] physical violence by an intimate partner within their lifetime, with more women being abused by their intimate partner. With 1 in 4 men and in some cases, 1 in 6 men being victims of intimate partner abuse, why aren't more people speaking up about this issue? It might be because of the stigma of being a male victim, in society, males are seen as the "controller" and " perpetrator" but never the victim; this is why #MaybeSheDoesntHitYou a Twitter tag that explores emotional domestic violence from the prospective of the male survivor is so powerful. Many individuals shared their experiences as survivors of abuse, emotional abuse:
#MaybeSheDoesntHitYou but she deceitfully tries to play the victim... She targets you, abuses you & then tries to vilify you (the target)
Did you know? • 48.8% of men have experienced at least one psychologically aggressive behavior (being kept track of by demanding to know his whereabouts, insulted or humiliated, or felt threatened by partner’s actions) by an intimate partner in their lifetime* (National Coalition Against Domestic Violence).
Social Media Movements like #maybeshedoesnthityou not only allowing male victims of abuse to open up about their experiences as domestic violence victims but it reexamines the definition of domestic abuse, society gender biases, and partner abuse. How do we open safe spaces for survivors of domestic violence to feel safe enough to share their experiences if they feel as if their gender and their experiences can be silenced because they aren't the "usual" victim or if their imitate partner may be seen as the victim and them, the perpetrator? Movements like #MaybeSheDoesntHitYou, #enddatingviolence, and even, #MaybeHeDoesntHitYou are tags of allyship and allow victims and survivors alike to feel that, they have a voice and they can speak up without being discriminated against. So why is this important? This tweet from one user sums it up.
*The Worthy Dad * is a blog owned by domestic violence survivor, who talks about his experiences and recovery and shares tips and information about and for Male Survivors of Domestic Abuse.
The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence: Male Victims of Intimate Partner Violence